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happiness as it was, as it is, as it should be

"White Butterfly" by doug88888

Has the time changed our shape of hearts, is this warmth true warmth, I am sure this coldness is real.

The discovery and appreciation of fire that warmed our homes, cooked our food, protected us from predators and gave us light. Now, we neither appreciate it nor give a thought, a minute for it, while it still helps us keep our lives off the cliff. The bar has totally changed, the red part is overcome centuries ago, while we use every “free” source to fill up the additional part, when did the other part come. Not to mention rain, sunshine, plants, animals, snow, moonlight, and other things there translucent for us, waving for us, things that could fill up the red part and still fill the rest of it.

History may say that the colors were upgrading constantly through the passage of time but in the sense of happiness, the colors were rather fading away. A single day passed unharmed would bring safe dreams, a single meal to fill up our empty stomachs, a few sips of water to kill the thirst would ensure a warm day.

One could say, the times have changed, but the time is same, ticking by the second not changing its rhythm not changing its aim, but we change, and our change was more to the unfortunate. We can blame the Fall, we can blame other people, we can blame the whole history, our thirsts for easy industry. But blaming won’t change us to what we are supposed to be.

The wishes have changed from one single step to hundred miles, from one dog house, to a skyscraper, from a cup of water to artificial lakes. Basic needs are imaginative to our hearts extends. What was used to be is not anymore. Deliberate ignorance for the neighbouring countries that are in the same ball we float in. The word balance is used only for some financial statistics in the business world, that is fake and unbalanced like the world today itself.

What good is all the literature that is drowning in a vortex when we are living in a void with artificial rainbows. One should question if new words are ought to be written, while we are surrounded with libraries of books that are fading. Are all nobels, all poets, all lunatics. Like us following them.

Is the first flight of a butterfly still surrounded by the sun. Is the newborn baby walking alone. Does he hear the whisper of his loved one. Can the mother find her lost daughter. Is turning back the time possible for the boy regretting his actions. Who said you have to walk 100 miles, while one step is enough.


say hello to passively made habits

"Dont Trust Your Own Shadow" by Meshari Karkari

Consistency and inconsistency are special words that must always be present in minds because they can define if we will go to the finish line or fail without even trying. How many times did you read that the things you don’t see, feel, pressure and plan can be with the same value with the things that are visible to our outside and inside? I am sure it was hyperbolic, with positive numbers. But on the other hand i am also sure that sometimes it is harder to manage the things we see…

I cannot stress it out enough how it is important to be consistent with our own words either be it saying out loud or saying it so that even the mosquitoes around us won’t hear. Yesterday, I read a quote that says, “Goals that are not written down are just wishes” the Author is unknown. Some of you may agree with the quote because of the metaphors or your hard tries. I say that it is not important if we write our goals or not, what is important is that we are being consistent with our own decisions.

No matter how much we think something in our closeness is unique, there is 99% someone else feeling or doing it. I believe that you know that sometimes it is better not to write any goals nor say them aloud in order to really make it happen. Well, lets go back to the main point…

Habits are not being created only by our efficiency but also with our inefficiency, and the habit created by the inefficiency is usually just like a invisible fire burning in a secret forest, it will be hard to stop the fire once recognized that something is holding us down.

If we once step of the road we planned, the next time when we want to take the road it will be harder because of the first time we failed, because of the first time when we were taken by our short term desires. Failing to follow our decisions once, twice and third time the volcano that was expanding in the inside of us will break out so that we see what we have created, which can be nearly inevitable if we don’t take the stand next time. Habits are hands that build the road that drives us higher or lower in the life, control the creation of unwanted habits and always go forward.

a moment to change our habits and therefore ourselves

"Honduras, Jumping into the Water" by Arne Wohlschlegel

We can read hundred of articles about personal development but if we don’t have the habit of strong consistency and cannot fulfill the promises made to ourselves and the society it won’t change us. Some say that the power of will is born-in into the personality of someone but we all know that the personality itself can be changed by changing habits which can be owned by simple first steps.

This article is about you letting go of the unwanted habits that stand as a obstacle on your life journey but also it can also be seen as a article about creating habits, both beneficial and destructive.

It is not the numbers that build the habit but the strength of the first numbers, the first tryouts that build the vitality of the next row. It may sound really down, but the vitality of the next row can be immediately banished with a little moment, the moment of realization, the moment of being true to ourselves, our body and our future.

Habits are not created long term nor short but at the right first time, how we think of it by the way we think of ourselves. It is not the five first times nor fifteen times of smoking a cigarette that design if the next door will be easy to open, but the thought of the need and will of it on the right first time.

The power of will won’t come with the wind that touches us, it must come from the inside where the all other real things come, the things that define our intentions, our motivations and our pictures of the whole life which is drawn in the minds of the close and distant acquaintances.

It is the consistency behind the words, “ok” and “no” that start building the tower, it doesn’t matter if the ok or no were strong, what matters is the strength of the consistency and finishing the promises.

The tower is built firstly by the easy doings, with the easiest walks like going to the grocery to buy milk or going out to lend a movie. These are the first steps in building the consistency and the will that drive someone to success.

One cannot conquer a mountain by landing on top of it with a helicopter and by that in mind, one cannot finish bigger tasks without firstly doing and than forgetting the smaller ones.

To finish a long journey one needs to bust the first step but the effectiveness of the journey is defined by the mindset which shapes the first step.